10 Ways to Help a New Momby Elizabeth MacDonald
Moms may look like superheroes, but we are tired. We don't feel super... if anything, we feel like we are just treading water most days.
And here's the deal, most of us are too prideful to ask for help.
This includes brand new moms and those of us who have birthed a few babies. But the reality is that while we may be doing okay in survival mode, we deserve some help, and it should come from those we love!
How can one help a mama who has recently had a baby? (I'm so glad you asked!)
10 Ways to Help a New Mom
#1 Bring a meal.You can have a meal delivered from a restaurant. You can bring over a hot meal, or a freezer meal for later. The last thing a new mom wants to do is stand in the kitchen and cook. The best thing you could do is bring a meal over during the first two weeks and then again around 6-8 weeks postpartum. Newborns tend to 'wake up' around that point and the help seems to disappear after week 4.
Moms need social interaction. We crave adult time. We won't get out of our PJ's for you, but we will certainly sit in the kitchen and enjoy your company if you offer to cook for the family! (Make sure that you stay and eat too!)
#2 Make a meal in her company.
There are multiple online wine sellers that can ship an entire case of champagne or wine to a doorstep. Of course, a hand-delivered bottle and a friend to share it with is much appreciated too, but if you don't live nearby, consider sending a few bottles to celebrate the new baby.
#3 Send (or bring) wine over.
Life doesn't slow down after adding a baby to the family. Groceries need to be purchased, Target runs still need to be made, and normal errands still need to be accomplished. You can offer to grab the dry-cleaning or stop by the grocery store for her. You can sit in the car line and grab her older kids from school. If she is feeling adventurous, ask her if she would like some company while walking the aisles of Target.
#4 Run her errands -- or accompany her on them.
This never-ending chore piles up faster than anyone cares to admit, but it's a simple task that can be accomplished as you spend the afternoon hanging out together. Throw a load in, change it over, start another, fold while she nurses the baby and you catch her up on life.
#5 Do her laundry.
Newborns sleep a lot. They can sleep right on Mom's chest as her feet are pampered.
#6 Get a pedicure together.
#7 Offer to babysit.If there are older siblings, give Mom an afternoon off and take them to the park.
For about $100-150, you can call a cleaning company to come and scrub the house, strip the beds, change sheets, clean out appliances, etc. She won't have to lift a finger!
#8 Send in a house cleaner.
Come over and snuggle the newest baby while she relaxes. You can hand the baby over to nurse when needed, but other than that, let your friend just be alone for an hour or two.
#9 Let her shower and sleep.
#10 Send random gift cards.
Amazon, Target, restaurants, baby stores, spas, whatever! Gift cards are amazing because she won't have to use them right away. A massage is wonderful, but not at 2 weeks postpartum. She needs to be able to decide when she's ready to leave the baby for an hour or two, not have someone decide for her.
There are so many ways to be there for a new mom. Remember that all moms deserve some help after adding to the family.