10 Best Sex Tips, Positions, and Play Rules for Pregnancyby Elizabeth MacDonald
The 10 Best Tips on Pregnancy Sex
- If you have been told NOT to have sex by your midwife or doctor, please listen. While this is rare, it will only be required if there is a reason that vaginal intercourse or orgasm should not occur.
- Own your changing body and be proud. You are growing a human, and you look damn good while doing it! Muffin tops, tiger stripes, giant breasts, and everything else is just part of the package these days. Your partner loves you, and is probably embracing these changes more (and easier) than you. Be vulnerable, but be strong. You will get your pre-baby body back later, but for now, let the mama bear out of the cave!
- The more sex you have, the more sex you want. It’s true that the body will begin to crave sex the more frequently you tangle the sheets up.
- Comfort is key! Make sure you are physically comfortable during the act. There is nothing worse than feeling like a whale and being in an uncomfortable position. Some positions just won’t work for you – speak up and find one that does.
- SPICE IT UP! Send a raunchy picture via text to your partner so he knows you are excited for tonight. This may help you get into the sex mind frame too. (Plus, pregnant women post ¾ nude pictures all over facebook just as belly updates, so don’t be shy – it’s your partner, not the whole world who will see!)
- Pillows and angles are your friends, USE THEM. Think about the height of a countertop, or angle of a couch arm. Utilize that pregnancy pillow to prop your hips to the perfect orgasmic level. Get creative.
- Go with the flow. When you are in the mood, act on it. If you aren’t 100% in the mood, but a part of you could possibly get there – maybe let your partner seduce you. You never know, it may be mind-blowing. You can always stop the seduction and turn on Netflix instead!
- Let your dreams guide you. If you are experiencing erotic (VERY common while pregnant) dreams, then let them fuel your passionate moments!
- Sex strengthens the bond between you and your partner; there is no doubting that. There may be moments though, where you truly want to “use” your partner for a quick orgasm. I’m pretty sure that he won’t argue with you on this. If he does, make sure to balance out the “intimate” moments with the quickies!
- It’s okay if you are NOT in the mood. Your hormones are crazy prior to pregnancy, throw the baby hormones in and you are a rollercoaster of craziness (in the best ways possible, of course).
Best Positions for Pregnancy Sex
First Trimester Anything Goes!!
As long as you are comfortable, anything goes. Throughout this trimester, your body will significantly change. Adapt your positions as needed. Don’t forget to start using those pillows and angles!
- This is when things get tricky. You can still have incredible sex during this stage, and the benefits are amazing. But, you’ll need to get creative!
Did you know that oral sex (done to you or by you) is good for pregnancy? YOU’RE WELCOME.
- Read Labels.
- Don’t Mix and Match (NO REAR ENTRY PLAY and then vaginal play)
- Keep it Clean – before and after.
- Be Gentle: A dildo is harder than a real penis.
- Trust your Gut. Don’t play if you don’t feel comfortable.
Nervous About Pregnancy Sex?
- If you start cramping after sex, don't freak out. An hour or two of mild cramps isn't unusual because both orgasm and the prostaglandins in semen can cause uterine contractions. Put your feet up, and drink water. But if you are scared, call your doctor. Same goes for spotting. Increased blood flow makes blood vessels more fragile on the cervix surface, and they may bleed a bit if your partner's penis rubs against the cervix. However, menstrual-period-like bleeding warrants an immediate call to your doctor. Call, too, if there's fluid discharge, because your water may have broken or may be leaking. But don't let any of this dampen your sex drive – these are VERY rare occurrences.