5 Ways to Help Preschool Anxiety
Are you or your toddler more anxious for this huge milestone? Are you terrified that your baby will be left out – or (possibly worse) leave another child out? Will she be the class-biter – What if a kid BITES HER? Oh.Dear.Lord. What if she doesn’t get a smiley face sticker for the day? And then you realize that you’ll sit outside of the classroom door ‘just in case,’ but then people will see that you are crazy… Instead, you can sit in your car outside of the school entrance. That way, you can have a glass of wine to ease your nerves. Wait – that may actually mean you are crazy. Oh Mama. Sweet, sweet Mama. You are not alone. Your baby is starting her educational journey – well, let’s be real, 3 hours with some songs and games is closer to babysitting, but it totally counts. You have been counting the days (months, years) for this moment. This is the sign that you will have a break in your day; perhaps for exercising, showering, and applying actual makeup – you are in yoga pants already. But the moment is now here, and your toddler looks like your baby, and your heart may just explode. Then there is your child; the one who still hides behind your legs when she is nervous. Will she cry as you walk away? Will she be scarred for life? Or will she spread her tiny wings and look more mature after the first week? This is parenthood. This is the crap that no one told you would happen when you decided to have a baby. The emotions are enough to send you to a looney-bin. But it is all normal. You hear me? You are NORMAL. We spend so much time assuming that everyone else is a better mother than we are; that Suzy Homemaker has her shit together – and that her kid can recite the alphabet backwards by age 3. The truth is that even Suzy may be peeing her pants as she dashed out of the school before her perfect mascara runs down her cheeks. Suzy may be your best mom friend by the end of the year. My fellow mama – welcome to separation anxiety. Just about every parent and child will be going through some form of it throughout this life transition. So what can you do to help your toddler transition well – and help yourself not need to spy on your child at the school playground from across the street?