Supporting a Transgender or Gender Neutral Child
Our society is finally accepting differences. Maybe accepting is the wrong word to use. “Addressing?” That may fit better. Our society is finally addressing differences, or lack thereof, among genders. It has been the headline for over a year now, ‘Trans-Gender’ and ‘Gender Neutral Children’ those identifying more with the opposite gender than they were born, or unsure of which gender they truly identify with. Our culture has not been the most welcoming to the topic, but with all great things, our country tends to fail before it succeeds. There are many families, educators, and governments out there trying to erase the gender label of infancy. ‘The idea is to make all things available to all children. Pink isn’t banned. Rather, it’s up for grabs. More subtly, and onerously, it means being careful about language and behavior so, for example, boys are given the same amount of attention as girls when they are upset, to counteract the assumption that girls are more emotional and boys are naturally braver. This, they say, is the way to stop women being too “nice” to ask for equal pay in the workplace and men from being too stoical to ask for help when they need it.’ I, personally, feel as though a person has the right, no matter how young, to explore and hear their inner voice on the matter. They should be able to communicate these feelings openly in a safe environment – with their family and in their home, surrounded by love. I also feel, as a parent, that getting excited over the gender of your child is natural. Pregnancy brings with it dreams of tea parties and super heroes. These dreams, as we know, may never happen – and that is completely ok – but they are still what we dream while pregnant. It is fun, if for a moment, to get caught up in the pink and blue. There are so many feelings involved as an individual, and from the perspective of a parent. I would hope that most parents would agree that it is not just the gender that causes excitement, it is the overall health of a baby that causes joy. When a parent or family uses tutus or bow ties to reveal their unborn child’s gender, they are not (I would hope not) trying to pave their child’s gender path. They are only celebrating and sharing their excitement. A parent cannot predict whether a daughter’s favorite color will be purple or green, or if she will love glitter or mud. They cannot expect a son to build towers instead of bake cookies, or wear a cape instead of a tiara. A parent cannot influence who their child loves or who they truly are inside. What a parent can do is LOVE. UNCONDITIONALLY.