Keepsakes for the Grieving Mother
Not every baby lives. Not every hand is held. Not every pair of lips are kissed. Too many mothers understand this grief. Too many mothers are expected to let go and move on before they are ready. There are no rules to loss; there are no rules to heartache. Losing a child you will never meet, or one you did not have enough time with, it can trigger emotions you did not know you had. A miscarriage occurs with 1 in every 3 pregnancies. Whether your friends are talking about it or not, it is happening around you – or to you, but yet, it is more proper to sweep it under the rug than shout it from the roof top. My heart was ripped from my chest during the 10-11th week of my 4th pregnancy. I had 3 glorious pregnancies and births, resulting in 3 blonde-headed babes running around me. But this one was not meant to reach my arms. I hadn’t even shared the news with that many people yet. But there I was, on Mother’s Day, laboring in my bathroom as I passed the tissue that once held the heartbeat of my baby. This happens to mothers every single day. A piece of their hearts are ripped from them, and a future that was envisioned is demolished. A heart that beat is now gone, and only tears can be heard in its place. I’m writing this to tell you that you are not alone. You deserve to grieve in any and every way you desire. Time will help… rainbow babies are life-altering, but not always the answer. Some mothers need to make peace and always remember the one they lost. After my loss, I scoured the internet for the perfect ‘thing’ to remember our angel. In doing so, I created a list that has helped quite a few friends remember their angels as well.