We have spent the month sharing about pregnancy loss and the emotional rollercoaster that mothers experience. It is finally becoming a topic of discussion, thanks to social media. Mothers can reach out and share their stories. But what about dads? What about partners?

Too often, we suffer alone with our losses. Too often, our heartache is meant to be swallowed without much acknowledgement.

It has been almost 1000 days now. I did not dream you up. You were real. You were inside of me, a part of me -- and you will always be mine.

What if my pregnancy had reached full term and you had let out that first cry?

Not every baby lives. Not every hand is held. Not every pair of lips are kissed. Too many mothers understand this grief. Too many mothers are expected to let go and move on before they are ready.

“Ritual opens a doorway in the invisible wall that seems to separate the spiritual and the physical. The formal quality of ritual allows us to move into the space between the worlds, experience what we need, and then step back and once more close the doorway so we can return to our lives enriched.” –Rachel Pollack